I am to believe more each day that our 20's are simply a phase of 'process of elimination'. I have eliminated countless men, friends, beliefs, jobs, paths, dreams, roads, standards, and destruction. In doing so – I believe I am closer to finding the reasons why I have NOT eliminated other friends, beliefs, dream, standards, and new expectations that I own now. Once I eliminated the belief that there is always and ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ answer I felt like a load was lifted off my shoulder. I’m sure someone somewhere has already made this a famous quote but just in case they didn’t I want to be the first to say “In life there is no Right or Wrong – just differences.”
So I was watching the Biggest Loser tonight. Although I can not connect with the contenders on weight loss I can understand determination, disappointment, and drive to meet personal expectations. The contenders have weekly challenges to gain rewards to win the game. And every week that I watch the show - it never changes – a contender will win a challenge but the rest of the competitors will continue on to the finish even though they will not get the reward. They continue for self assurance, self gratification, and just the simplicity of fulfilling a personal challenge. Sometimes we find ourselves wanting to finish something not because of the reward it’s self, or maybe we started for the reward, but in the midst we simply just want to finish so that we know we could. Just for clarification – let me back-up and define ‘reward’. Since when did a ‘reward’ become monetary – to talk about at the dinner table, or a diploma – a flimsy piece of paper, a title – to put on your office door, a status – to add the Mrs. in front of your name, a ceremony – to include people who did not strive with you, or others recognition – just to realize you did all the work. Since when did we start living for the ‘reward’ and not God and Self?
So I was watching the Biggest Loser tonight. Although I can not connect with the contenders on weight loss I can understand determination, disappointment, and drive to meet personal expectations. The contenders have weekly challenges to gain rewards to win the game. And every week that I watch the show - it never changes – a contender will win a challenge but the rest of the competitors will continue on to the finish even though they will not get the reward. They continue for self assurance, self gratification, and just the simplicity of fulfilling a personal challenge. Sometimes we find ourselves wanting to finish something not because of the reward it’s self, or maybe we started for the reward, but in the midst we simply just want to finish so that we know we could. Just for clarification – let me back-up and define ‘reward’. Since when did a ‘reward’ become monetary – to talk about at the dinner table, or a diploma – a flimsy piece of paper, a title – to put on your office door, a status – to add the Mrs. in front of your name, a ceremony – to include people who did not strive with you, or others recognition – just to realize you did all the work. Since when did we start living for the ‘reward’ and not God and Self?
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