We have lost the value of a sincere smile, we have lost the value of respect, we have lost the value of courtesy, and the value of a sincere hug. I have accepted that it is rare to find someone to open a door for me and not fake a greeting. I have accepted that respect is not a two-way street and real friends are a dying breed. I have choose to realize that we do not live in Pleasantville but a fallen world, however what I can't get my head around is that we have lost the value of our words.
Promises are now merely best intentions and dangerous one-liners are taken to the either extreme - 1. with a grain of salt or 2. too dependent on immature emotions. I will admit I am guilty of the extreme one-liners in the heat of anger or frustration and I have made a large effort to refrain from immature 'I love you's, 'I hate's, and using any absolutes (never and always). We can hardly keep to our word unless it's in a written contract and we mouth off statements without repercussions. We have over looked that fact that the more extreme we become in our language the more incredible we become to others. We all know someone who you don't listen to anymore because you never know what's true and what's a little 'off'. I lost a few good friends because I use to be lose-lipped and hard to believe. My words were extreme and stretching the truth depended on what the result would be for me. There are times when I still feel overwhelming disappointed that I became that person and I have spent 3-some years correcting my imperfection. Two of those people will always view me as ‘that’ girl and that is my repercussion.
The newest phase that we have succumbed to is 'I'm Done!' I know - I am being sensitive and petty about this 'word' thing. If you would not lead someone on with 'I love you' after the first date why would you say 'I'm Done' when your actions will not follow. You are lying emotionally to yourself and the people around you. Needless to say I can do without the guessing games of creditable words with friends are acquaintances.
An old friend hit the nail on the head by saying:
Mean what you Say. Say what you Mean. And Don’t be Mean when you Say It.
2 comments:
Although I am too guilty of the "I'm so done!!" when I get frustrated, I agree with every word. In this face paced, selfish, and arrogant society we have definitely lost sight of what is truly important in our lives. We are so consumed by hate, bitterness, and jealousy that we cannot even think straight. Hmm.... I need to blog... Lol
YES! That's what I've been saying!! Use it as therapy not 'work'!!!!
:)
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